Tiara Therapy – It’s Not Just for Toddlers!
I bought my first tiara when I was in my mid-fifties. I don’t remember wearing one as a little girl. I bought, not one, but a dozen hot pink plastic tiaras at the local Party City along with pink buckets and princess pads and pens with feather boas. I packed them up and flew to Atlanta, Georgia for a mini-reunion with my best friends from Skidmore College. We have known each other since we were 18 year- old freshmen in 1970. The buckets were for a “bucket list” of adventures that we dream of while we are still young at heart and up for anything.
Tiaras magically transform both your complexion and personality. Wrinkles and worry lines disappear replaced by girlish giggles and smiles as sparkling as this royal accessory. Some of my friends were even inspired to take off everything but their tiaras and enjoy skinny- dipping at midnight in our host’s plantation- size swimming pool. We wore our tiaras during breakfast, lunch and dinner and all posed for a regal portrait for posterity.
A few years later my friend Suzi, our skinny-dipping Atlanta hostess, flew to N.Y. to surprise me on my 60th birthday. She presented me with an expensive sparkling crystal tiara from an upscale expensive bridal shop. Pink plastic was a thing of the past! My Skidmore rat pack also journeyed from afar for the N.Y. celebration, including my sister Nancy and friend Cindy, both from California. We partied the night away, and I wore my tiara for the next three days. I later learned that the actress Julie Andrews was in N.Y. and proclaimed that week Tiara Week to promote her new book about a young princess. I may write a book about tiara therapy for “mature” princesses who are forever young at heart.
Most of us were turning 60 in 2012, the lucky Chinese Year of the Dragon. My sister designed pink tee shirts for everyone with a Dragon Divas logo. It was a great fashion look with my tiara!
Our next tiara pilgrimage was to San Diego later that year for Cindy’s 60th. She generously treated all of us to a spa experience at the lovely La Costa resort. I presented the trio of Cindy, Suzi and Nancy with crystal tiaras and brought along more pink plastic Party City tiaras for the remaining princesses. Again, a regal portrait captured our smiles for posterity.
Yesterday, I got a note from Cindy. She met a group of girlfriends wearing pink plastic tiaras in a restaurant celebrating a 50th birthday. She discovered that the birthday girl had recently been widowed. With her wonderful way of caring, Cindy shared that she was widowed for the second time shortly before her 60th birthday. She also shared her optimistic view of life, a message of hope coupled with a hug. Then she wrote to tell all of us that story, a sort of tiara telepathy.
I think the message is clear. Surround yourself with good friends and pretty tiaras, be they plastic or crystal, and you will always find a way to “carry on” through the ups and downs of life’s journeys. Try it, it works!
YEAR OF THE DRAGON JANUARY 2012 PATTY’S AT FRESCO’S NYC
YEAR OF THE DRAGON NOVEMBER 2012 CINDY’S AT LA COSTA
NANCY’S 60th MAY 2013 YEAR OF THE SNAKE LAGUNA
2010 SKIDMORE SOUTHERN BELLES AT HELDRICH PLANTATION
CINDY BORROWS PINK TIARA & JOINS 50TH CELEBRATION AUG 2013